Do you ever feel everyone else’s lives are better than yours?
You are not the only one.
A University of Missouri study have discovered that extended use of Instagram and Facebooks could increase envy and a rise in depression. It´s natural to relate in this world of human interactions, but when relating turns into comparison, you need to be careful.
“Another study called Envy on Facebook: A Hidden Threat to Users” found that these platforms increases stress, jealousy, envy, insolation and social media overload.
Let’s be honest, all of us deal with jealousy in one way or another, the more time we spend in social media, the more alone and empty we feel. Too much time on Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat can distort reality and make us feel our life is worse than the others we see on Social Media.
How could images of people´s life cause such intense feelings of dissatisfaction? This video shows perfectly the world we live in.
We want to share with you some tips that will help you to avoid this emotions:)
Tip 1: Remove the rose coloured lens
Firstly, Social media is not real life. We are selective of which picture upload, and then, we use filters to make ourselves skinnier and prettier. When we see pictures of our friend at the Maldives eating lobster this week, visiting the Eiffel Tower next week, or pictures of their lovely baby goo gooing and gagaing, we think that’s all their is to their life
They don’t post the fact that Maldives, and Paris was their first holiday in 3 years, and they worked 60 hour weeks to save money for that to happen. They don’t post the fact they were up till 3am the last 2 nights because their baby refused to go to sleep.
Reality is filled with joy, sadness, anger, pain, elation, and a thousand other emotions that touch all of us daily. None of us wants our friends to see us in a negative light, so we never post post the mundane, the sad or difficulties of our lives on Social Media. When everyone only post the best, the most memorable and the most positive experiences we have. It can easily create a distortion of reality is really like.
So when you recognise feelings of inadequacy, envy, or sadness from looking at your Facebook Feed, remind yourself you’re only seeing a very, very small part of a big picture.
Tip 2: Time to unplug
Another really good technic is to unplugging. Social media is very useful in maintaining relationships but it can be really addictive.
As humans, we’re not wired to be on the internet all day, we need real life experiences to feel fulfilled. Go out with your friends, take a walk, spend time with family, turn off the mobile and enjoy the benefits life. One of the best things you can do is remove Instagram or Facebook from your phone for a while.
Tip 3: Learn to be grateful and content
In life, we find real happiness through in the everyday little things. The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others.
And remember, if you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head to sleep, you’re already richer than 75% of the world (that’s 525,000,000 people!).